Remember the song No Scubs by TLC? They defined a scub as a man who thinks he's all that, but is really a buster. They go on to say he is always the man who is trying to give you a ride, but sits on the passenger side. He lives at home, has no job or car, and has kids but doesn't take care of them. Today is Valentine's Day and I've declared it my theme song of the week. As a single woman, I started dreading this day when I saw the candy, cards, balloons and stuffed animals appear in stores in mid-January. I have talked to a couple of guys in the past few months, but my chance of getting anything is pretty slim. When a friend of mine called last night, I asked if I should expect a gift and his comeback line was, "I get my gift everytime I talk to you." Pretty lame and I explained to him that I was still empty handed. Oh well, I should be used to it by now, this is the third year I've been without. I guess I really shouldn't complain too much because I love the cards that my kids make. They presented me with them yesterday and I was overjoyed that they put so much care in their artwork.
As I look around and see roses being delivered and candy being eaten, I think for a moment, "I want that too!" But then reality sets in and I realize that I'm pretty happy with the flow of my life. I've adjusted to being a single parent and I really don't have the time or energy for another person right now. Sure, I get lonely, but those days come less often. My kids keep me extremely busy and I have enough housework to last until the end of time. I also have my to be read (tbr) stack of books and my nightly tv schedule (love those crime shows). When I'm starved for adult conversation, I call my mom or sister and they are forced to listen to me and my soapboxes.
And so, I titled this entry No Scubs because I have to remind myself that I'd rather be alone than to have a scub in my life. If I have to put up with crap just to say I have someone, no thanks. If it means spending the holidays alone and no gifts, that's great too.
I'll be so glad when this week is over and all the Valentine's stuff is gone. That will give me about seven months to prepare for Christmas and New Year's.
3 comments:
Join my Anti-Valentine brigade. It was pretty low key at work today. A certain someone moped about all day and never got any flowers. But she sent them to her new hubby. I'm glad that I gave up hope for that kind of thing long ago, and look forward to homemade or e-cards. It's so much easier.
Ain't that the truth! I love e-cards. I did get two phone calls last night, so I'm happy that someone thought about me.
You are so right that just to have someone in your life to have claim on a relationship is not the reason to be in a relationship. Stick to your guns. You are totally precious in the eyes of God and your friends!
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